Firstly, my sincere condolences. Bereavement is such a rollercoaster of emotions. It is entirely normal to find oneself switching between moods: sometimes getting on with the normal daily round, and other times plunged into unexpected emotions. Hurt, sadness, laughter, relief, regret, anger and fear of the future are very normal and, usually, necessary. There is no time limit to this process but I have heard it said that when you can look at your loved one’s picture, and smile rather than cry, you are over the worst.


When someone dies there are so many different things that need to be dealt with. Your Funeral Director or faith minister, if you have one, will always be glad to advise but here are some great sources of support and information.


Practical Advice

From the Government:

The Citizens' Advice Bureau:

Age UK (formerly known as Help the Aged):



Emotional and Specialist Support

Cruse Bereavement Care offer a range of support to those who are bereaved. In particular, should you find yourself stuck in your grief, they can offer, free-of-charge, counselling style support.


The Stillbirth and Neo-natal Death Charity has a sound reputation among health and care services as a body of people to turn to in the aftermath of a baby's death.


Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide is a support organization dedicated to those affected by the suicide of another.



Funeral Services

My professional body, The Fellowship of Professional Celebrants:

The National Association of Funeral Directors:

The National Society of Allied and Independent Funeral Directors:

The British Institute of Funeral Directors:

Funeral Map helps you locate services in your area:


If you are feeling desperate and alone, The Samaritans are always available to talk to

08457 90 90 90